Community life 1: Introduction
Community life
INTRODUCTION
Everybody needs a family. It is not only a matter of having a place where people can stay, rest, eat etc. It is a matter of belonging. We need people around us of whom to say: They belong to me and I to them. We are born in a family and this family, throughout our childhood, moulded us in good and in bad. With growth we became more and more independent, not because family is not any more important but because we started feeling the desire of having a new one which we could call our own, in which we can make the changes, we can build a future with new people. To have a family make us feel secure, active, fulfilled.
But to build a family is not something automatic, and not even easy. You have to make space for the other, and so you need to give up some of your space. If you want to be active you have to expose yourself, your skills and so risk to be criticized. You need to trust people around you.
All these things, since they are neither simple nor easy, come well only if you have a higher reason, something to achieve.
Reasons for which to form a family can be very human: I am attracted to that person, I need help, I like the place, I like to do the things they do. All these are good reasons, but are very limited. We do not have to neglect them but encourage them instead to be developed. But we cannot dwell on them, we need to move on something more stable because the above can change easily: beauty can end, help may not be needed any more, I may find better places or people and change activity.
We need to have at least one reason which is “eternal”, a spiritual reason which will never fail us. In a family, usually, this reason is “Love”. In a religious community this reason can be the charism, the love for our own vocation, the idea of searching for God and serving him, the fulfilment of his will. So community is to be considered a gift of God and a gift to God.