Formation in the missions



Guidelines for formation of candidates of the Delegation

I was asked by Fr. Malcolm to share with you some reflections on formation, ideas which do not come much from books but rather from what I experienced during last 12 years.
I will start from the word “education”. As you all know well this word comes from the Latin “e-ducere”, to take out from. This is an important concept because it tells us that our work is not to put something in the heads of our students but to make them discover something that is already there and is there because God has planted it in them. Another word similar to education is formation. We tend sometimes to confuse it with “information”. Our task is not to give notions, instructions but to give a shape to a matter which is already there, which God has made. We are the instruments which God has chosen to make the work he wants, for which he has already prepared all the necessary material.
As a consequence of this idea we have that:
- each formee (person in formation) is different, has different skills, culture etc. and also a different vocation.
- we do not have to prepare clones of ourselves but help each of them to get in touch with himself and there discover the gift of God
- our work as guide is necessary because the material alone cannot find the right shape.
As I said each one has a different need and a different vocation but there is, of course something common otherwise it would become impossible and useless to have a seminary. What are the elements which are common? Don Orione, when presenting his plan for the so called “compagnia del Papa” said that the purposes of the group were:
- the sanctification of the members of the group,
- to prepare people able to work in faith for the sanctification of those who would get in touch with them.
I add that the two purposes above are done according to the charism which God has given to the Church through Don Orione, contributing, at the same time, to the development of such a charism.
The 1st consequence is that we cannot have en-mass formation. Of course our students live together and community is a fundamental aspect of formation. Of course there are classes to be given, but it is necessary to have a personalized training in the sense that a certain flexibility in programmes, timetables etc. is needed according to the level and needs of the candidates; but there is also the need for a real personal training done especially through personal meetings and personal programmes.
We are dealing with students who come to us with no experience at the young age of 16-18 and we consider them “in formation” till they become priests at the age of 28-30. So this personalization of the programmes must grow with their age: it would be a little at the beginning and grow through the years.
There is a temptation to concentrate all the formation during the novitiate because while studying philosophy the students are very busy and not expert yet, at theology they are already too expert and again busy in studying, and during tirocinium they are spread in different places so not under our control. This is a wrong idea of formation. A student of theology needs formation as much as a postulant, and maybe even more, since he has to take the definitive steps of perpetual profession and priesthood, but of course a formation which is more mature and suiting him.
It is like many priests who used to think in a similar way: “Once a year I go to the retreat, fill up my tank with spirituality, then go back to my work and during the year consume the fuel I stored hoping it will last till next retreat”. So we give to the novices as much as possible hoping the input lasts long, then give a bit more at the time of perpetual vows and ordination and then send them to the “real world as priests” to survive. You understand very well that it cannot work in this way. The apostolate is not something negative which consumes me but a place where I can meet Jesus, where I can become a saint while helping others to become saints. So all the years of formation are moments in which the students have to learn something.
2nd from here I take a second point regarding formation: this cannot be segregated from the life of people, the reality of the Christian community. Of course formation is a moment different from the apostolate but it must include strong apostolic experiences. Our boys must learn how to meet Jesus in prayer as well as in the people in need.
The apostolate must challenge their idea of “tomorrow”, help them to clarify if they really want to live for the poor, the sick etc.
3rd A third point is that formation is a holistic process, which means it addresses all aspects of human life. Our young people come from a society which is more and more confused about values, they often find difficult to have ideals and even less a clear idea of what they want to do. They learned from their families some basic social and Christian values but they haven't tested yet to see how relevant they are for their life. I mention 5 areas which are particularly important:
We have to help them to grow intellectually, morally and religiously, and this we usually do quite well, but we must address also the social and the psycho-emotional areas.
Often those who come to us have passed through experiences of deprivation, economical and emotional, often they witnessed violence and abuse, physical or emotional, mostly perpetrated by people from their family or relations. These are aspects which we cannot neglect if we want to form mature shepherds for the flock of the Lord. These things affect very much the capacity of the person to relate socially with the companions but even more the capacity to entrust himself openly into the hands of a superior.
We can mention here the topic of the vocational discernment. What is the reason which brought these boys to our seminary? Maybe they are aiming to have a more comfortable life, to have a possibility of studying, to have an emotionally rewarding career (priesthood), the ideal of becoming saviours of others which is often a way to repress the shame they feel regarding their actual situation. All these reasons, which seem to be wrong, are actually very normal and they do not mean that a person has no real vocation. They are an enough reason to join us; it is up to us now to show them better reasons which can push them as much or even more.
7 years ago some sisters came to visit India with the idea of starting there. One of them was shocked in seeing that the candidates were so many and so young, she was always saying: “How can these girls have a clear idea of vocation at that age? How can they decide in a mature way about their vocation if they are so young”. They didn't want candidates to be formed; they wanted already mature and formed people to whom they had only to teach about their founder. For that reason they gave up on India.
There are no readymade vocations on the market.
Many people apply to come to our seminaries and somehow we manage to do a certain screening beforehand but no matter how good we are, it will never be enough. The real discernment is done through the years in a long open and sincere dialogue with the formator and the test of community and apostolic life.
I met a congregation of sisters who thought they had found the perfect formula. Every year they used to accept 50 candidates and straight from the beginning they would tell them: “In 6 months’ time (the Christmas holidays) half of you will be left at home and half, the best, allowed to return. At the end of the year 10 more will be dismissed and only 15 will be allowed to go to the postulancy”. They thought they would keep the best but actually they kept only the liars, the less alive ones and lost all the skilled and active.
It is true that we have to allow people to arrive to the novitiate only those who have reached a reasonable level of maturity and some clear sign of vocation but we cannot simply dismiss a seminarian just because we feel he is not suitable. We have, towards him as well, a moral responsibility to help him to mature and to find his way. It must reach a point in which he decides to go away and he goes away with gratitude for the help he received. Normally it is better to keep an active creative person, though he may be challenging or a bit independent minded, than a quiet adjusted person with no creativity, no enthusiasm.
4th. There is one other aspect which we should consider. After Vatican II there was a strong drive towards inculturation of the message. This process has been done quite successfully in our environments, but recently another aspect has instead become relevant and that is the interculturality. It is not anymore the matter of inculturating our messages but of forming religious with an open mind, able to deal with people of different origin. Our communities are now really international in their structure, and even our students meet, since the beginning, companions of different languages, somehow even different culture, then they go abroad for novitiate and studies, and probably some of them even work abroad, like we all do. You understand well that is not only matter of going along well with people of different origin, but to learn how to share ideals with them, work together, appreciate their contribution, start loving the things they love, getting into their way of thinking.
5th. Attached to this is the need of creating in our candidates the sense of belonging or in other words the sense of family. I am Italian and I will never stop being one; people understand it, but my family now is the Congregation and my main concern is what the Congregation needs and asks of me, even if, for that purpose, I need to give up some aspects of my being Italian. How much am I willing to sacrifice for my family? One thing is to be attached to your country, your language, your food, it is another when those become an obstacle to the work you are doing, to the good-functioning of your community and apostolic life. We have to educate our students to have an open mind, to understand that people may think in a different way and have different values.
So we have to train them to discern between the values which come from the Gospel and those which are merely fruit of culture and time. Both are valid and good but whereas on the latter I may sometimes compromise, if need be, but on the first, never.
6th. Last but not least, we spoke of the importance being among people. Often priests have got the impression that they must be like those among whom they live, meaning by that, adopting the lifestyle of the society in which they live. All Vatican documents on religious life, starting with Vita consacrata, and all Popes have always stressed the fact that Religious must be among people like a provocation, a challenging and questioning presence. Our three vows do not allow us to live exactly like them. But this witness, so important for today's society and so lacking, is something that must be taught now to the seminarians, it doesn't come automatically and it doesn't start after ordination. We have to train our students to sacrifice, to go without things which are not necessary, to get satisfied with the “popular” standard of gadgets, to care for things, to repair them. We cannot expect them to do as priests what we have not taught them before. Of course, while they learn they will look as well to see what we do in this regard.

I have been long and messy. Let me give some concrete indication:
1) Personal dialogue with each seminarian. The frequency of this may change according to the level of formation the top being during the novitiate.
2) Knowledge of the families, the parish where he comes from, the environment he grew up in. Such basic knowledge should also be transmitted to the formators of the later stages together with a report on the candidate himself.
3) Challenging apostolic experiences. Also for these the frequency and the quality may change.
4) Community moments of sharing and discussion not only about the community matters but also on activities such as apostolate, lessons, movies, trips and celebrations, so that each of them may become an educative tool.
5) Involve as much as possible the seminarians in the community decisions, let them decide on things which are not essential like the way of running the house, manual works etc.
6) make them experience not only the work to do but also some responsibility in organising it and leading it. Make them use and develop their creativity
7) Value and encourage the skills they have
8) Develop their capacity of interacting with people by participating in the life of the parish, groups, family visits, St. Vincent de Paul society, etc.

The formator, through the years, has to become a coordinator, a supervisor, an elder brother with whom to deal, rather than an organiser or a teacher. In some cases the one in charge of formation may even not be the superior of the community.

Fr. Oreste Ferrari fdp
Rome, July 15, 2014

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